Should single parents quiz their kids about life at the other parent’s home?




I caution single parents to be careful about questioning what goes on in the other home.  Kids of divorce can very quickly discern they have the “power” and will use it as a game. They may delight in watching you squirm as they tattle on the other  parent. They will do the same at the other home. If you have allowed this game to get started, work on stopping it.

Here is what I tell the single parents in my ministry. What goes on in the other home is between your child and the other parent. Work on making your time and your home the best it can be. Even if the other parent is talking bad about you, leave it alone.  You be the Christian and love your kid’s other parent through Christ. This doesn’t mean you are in love with the other parent but you can love them as Christ does.

Unless your kids are being physically hurt, leave it alone. When they bring something to you, such as “mom lets us watch “r” rated movies and she says you’re a wimp because you don’t” (this is only an example) just say, “Mmm, we don’t watch “r” rated movies in my home. I’m sorry your mom feels that way. I’ll be praying for your time with your mom.”

Drop it, say no more.

These kinds of issues are addressed in both Single & Parenting and DivorceCare.


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