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Question of the week: Why is the interruption of routines and traditions at Christmas so difficult for a child?

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Children of divorce get used to a particular routine. While living in a different house every week or leaving your home to spend every other weekend with a different parent might not seem like a routine to us adults, to children, it is what has become their routine. It is a schedule that has become a routine they can count on to Read more…

Posted: December 18th, 2019 ˑ 6 Comments
Filled under: Divorce Issues, Holidays, Question of the week

How puppies can help you understand little kids in divorced homes

About three years ago, we got a cute, little puppy. She was from a rescue organization, and she was not quite twelve weeks when we brought her home. She was a just a little mutt but still cute nonetheless. She was all white, fluffy, and just the sweetest, little thing. Oh, how I fell in love with her. She wasn’t without trials, Read more…

Posted: July 11th, 2018 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Co-parenting, Divorce Issues, Emotions, Single Parents

Do kids ever recover from the divorce of their parents?

Recover might not be an appropriate term to use. When you think of the term recover or look it up, the definition is “to return to a normal state of health, mind, or strength.” When you think of kids recovering from the divorce of their parents, you need to understand their lives will never return to their previous state. Things will always be Read more…

Posted: June 28th, 2018 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Attracting families, Divorce Issues, Emotions, Family Ministers, Single Parents, Step and blended families

Children of divorce: caught in the middle

On my morning walk, I noticed two birds chirping very loudly. One bird was on the right side of the street. The other bird was on the left side of the street. It seemed to me that they were conversing with each other. The one on the right chirped almost as if it were yelling. Then the bird on the left Read more…

Posted: May 14th, 2018 ˑ 2 Comments
Filled under: Divorce Issues, Single Parents, Stress

Did you know fear in the child of divorce can cause behavior issues?

Experts tell us that when children feel fear, they aren’t able to learn and absorb information normally. When a child feels unsafe, the “learning brain” begins to power down. Learning becomes difficult if not impossible. Clearly, a child suffering through the divorce of her parents does not feel safe. I’d like to explain how she processes the information you are trying to teach Read more…

Posted: January 23rd, 2017 ˑ 3 Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Brain Research, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Emotions

How can chaos in a child’s environment lead to behavior problems in kids of divorce?

“When my mom told me they were getting a divorce, I got confused. I didn’t understand what divorce was. I just knew my dad was moving out. I didn’t understand he was moving out – moving out. I thought he was visiting a friend for a few weeks. I didn’t know what was going to happen to me and my sister. I was Read more…

Posted: January 18th, 2017 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Brain Research, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Single Parents, Whirlwind Kids

Are children of divorce resilient?

Back in the seventies when the divorce rate skyrocketed everyone was saying, “Children are resilient.” Many parents banked on their kids being resilient. Now all these years later we are finding that many of those so-called “resilient kids” were not so resilient after all. Many of the kids of divorce from that era are now adults and they are struggling in their Read more…

Posted: October 31st, 2016 ˑ 4 Comments
Filled under: Co-parenting, Divorce Issues, Single Parents