Puppies and kids – they need lots of attention



Recently we got a puppy. She was from a rescue place and she was not quite 12 weeks when we brought her home.

She is all white, fluffy and just the sweetest little thing. Oh, how much I’m falling in love with her. She’s not without trials though, kind of like little kids. I had forgotten what it takes to train a new puppy and how much attention she requires.

Having this new little puppy in our home got me to thinking about single parents who don’t realize how much attention little children require. These are the single parents that maybe weren’t active with their children when married.

  • If the parent was the one who did not spend a lot of time with their children when they had a spouse, they will struggle knowing what to do with the kids when they come to visit.
  • If they were the parent that was too busy to notice the kids when there was a two-parent home, they will be too busy to notice the kids in the one parent home.
  • If they were always on the computer or texting someone before, then they will be doing the same thing when the kids come to spend time with them.
  • If they didn’t have a relationship with the kids when they were married to the children’s other parent, they better start figuring out how to do it now.

Give them attention

Just like little puppies thrive on attention so do children. They need attention from both parents. They need attention from each parent separately when the parents are not living together. If they don’t get the attention they need from a parent they will find it from another person or group.

God designed us to be in family. When the adults disappoint a child or they don’t have time for their children, kids will form make shift families. Some fortunate kids will attach themselves to a friend’s family. Other kids may create family through becoming involved in gang activities or being with groups of kids with no adult interaction. But some how a child will find family.

Some kids want to talk

My kids are grown now but I cherish the memories of the times they required my attention. It seems like when my kids were teens they wanted to talk all the time. From the moment I walked in the door to our home one of them was talking.

There were times I tried to escape just for a few moments of quiet. My escape place was the bathroom. But they would come looking for me. Sometimes my son would talk under the crack in the door. Or they would slip a note under the door.

Oh, and a quiet stress free bath was out of the question. More than once I had to yank the shower curtain across the tub as one of them rushed up the stairs to share some important bit of news. I’m glad now that they trusted me enough to want to share their lives with me. I shudder to think what would have happened to my kids if I hadn’t been there for them. So if your kids want to talk and share with you, count it a privilege.

About puppies and kids

One thing about puppies and that is if you treat them right they will be your best friend for life. They will love you unconditionally for the rest of their lives. It is the same with children. If you love and show kids respect and honor them you will have a good relationship with them for the rest of your life.

When my kids were younger I had a cockapoo (a mix between a cocker spaniel and a poodle) that lived to be 14 years old. We got her when she was just a little puppy. My husband moved out right after we got this little puppy. My kids became attached to that puppy. They seemed to pour out the love they had for their missing dad on her. She reciprocated and she saw my children through the divorce and stuck by them for years.

That little dog just seemed to know when my kids needed extra attention. When my son would return from his father’s house she would run up to him and greet him like he had been gone for years. He would pick her up and cuddle her and say all the things to her that I think he wished his dad would say to him.

Church family

If you know a single parent or you are a single parent realize that children need family. Children want to belong to a family. Children deserve to be in a family. One of the best families, outside their birth families, is the church family.

Just as church gatherings and church family was important in the New Testament church family is as important today. Single parents and their children need to belong to the church family.

What is your church doing to attract single parents and kids to your church? Maybe you should try handing out puppies!



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