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Suicide myths: Learning the truths

This is the third article in this series on suicide in children. The first asked the question, “Do elementary age children seriously die by suicide?” The second was, “A call for help”. In this article, we separate the truths from the myths of suicide. It is important to truly understand all aspects of suicide in children so we can help them have a Read more…

Posted: February 18th, 2021 ˑ 3 Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Single Parents, Stress, Trauma

Question of the week: Why do you have so much compassion for troubled and disruptive kids?

I It is really very simple—children do to others what has been done to them. Or they are hurting, little children, and their behavior is their voice screaming for help. In DC4K, or DivorceCare for Kids, we see children calming down and bringing their behavior under control when They learn they have a voice. They put a name to their feelings. Someone Read more…

Posted: February 14th, 2018 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Abuse and Unsafe situations, Accept the Challenge, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Emotions, Grandparents, Question of the week, Uncategorized

Reasons why ministering to hurting children is the richest job on the planet

For those of us who work with hurting children, another year has come and passed, and hopefully, we have made a difference. Those of us who have the honor of ministering to hurting children have richest job on the planet. We get the pleasure of ministering to innocent children who have an innate desire to love the Lord. “I love Jesus with Read more…

Posted: December 28th, 2017 ˑ 1 Comment
Filled under: Divorce Issues, Emotions, Grandparents, Holidays, Modern families, Single Parents, Step and blended families

10 ways to help kids of divorce when they explode emotionally at church

In our last post “When kids of divorce explode emotionally, how do you help the parent?” we discussed how to help the single parent whose child explodes at home. But what do you do when an emotional explosion happens at church? You can’t send the child to his room. You must handle the explosion at the moment it happens. Many ways we deal Read more…

Posted: March 13th, 2017 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Brain Research, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Single Parents, Stress

Question of the week: How long does it take a child to recover from the divorce of their parents?

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The answer to this question can get complicated. Many divorcing parents think their children will get over the divorce fairly quickly. But what parents need to realize is while the adult life might go on and they will find a new partner, the children will never find another parent. The two parents will always be their parents. Most research shows that for adults Read more…

Posted: February 15th, 2017 ˑ 10 Comments
Filled under: Death of a marriage, Divorce Issues, Question of the week, Research

Two big mistakes we make with stressed-out children of divorce!

Many children living in divorcing single parent homes experience tremendous stress leading to some out of control behaviors. When they come to your church, your volunteers question what on earth could be causing these kids to act like this? They may wonder if there is any discipline in the home at all. It is not that their parent is a bad parent or Read more…

Posted: January 12th, 2017 ˑ 12 Comments
Filled under: Brain Research, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Preschool, School Issues, Stress, Whirlwind Kids

Are children of divorce resilient?

Back in the seventies when the divorce rate skyrocketed everyone was saying, “Children are resilient.” Many parents banked on their kids being resilient. Now all these years later we are finding that many of those so-called “resilient kids” were not so resilient after all. Many of the kids of divorce from that era are now adults and they are struggling in their Read more…

Posted: October 31st, 2016 ˑ 4 Comments
Filled under: Co-parenting, Divorce Issues, Single Parents

Do elementary age kids cut? Part III

In Part I and Part II about elementary age kids cutting and self-harming we explored: The increase in self-harm Why they cut and self-harm How to recognize the signs of children who might become engaged in self-harming. In this post, let’s take a look at what to actually look for in a child that is self-harming and how you can help. Keep in mind Read more…

Posted: April 2nd, 2015 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Brain Research, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Emotions, Research, Single Parents, Stress