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Question of the week: Why do behavior problems escalate when there is a divorce?

There are many things happening in a child’s life when parents separate or divorce. The child doesn’t understand adult problems and even though a lot of their friends have divorced parents, many children simply don’t know what the word “divorce” means. All they know is their parents were together and now one parent is packing their bags. In “Divorced Kids” by Laurene Read more…

Posted: August 7th, 2019 ˑ 7 Comments
Filled under: Discipline, Question of the week

Why are behavior problems compounded when there is a divorce?

I get asked this questions all the time: “Why do behavior problems escalate when there is a divorce.” Having divorcing parens creates a lot of confusion in many children, not all children but in many children. To a little kid there are crazy things start happening when parents separate or divorce. The child doesn’t understand adult problems and even though a lot of Read more…

Posted: February 13th, 2019 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Co-parenting, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Emotions, Family Ministers, KidMin, Single Parents, Visitation

Responses to “What you focus on you get more of”

Recently I published a blog post about the importance of focusing on what we want kids to do and not on what we don’t want them to do. In the article I state, “I focus on how I want the kids to act and how they should behave. I set the expectations and standards early on, like the minute they walk into our Read more…

Posted: October 25th, 2018 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Brain Research, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Single Parents, Step and blended families, Stress, Trauma

Question of the week: Help! We have an unruly kid and nothing works. What do we do?

It can be so frustrating when you have one kid or a couple of kids that disrupt the entire group. Everything you’ve learned about classroom management has been tried and the kid is still out of control. I understand. Sometimes you feel like it’s you and perhaps you just need to resign from working with kids. Does any of this sound familiar? This Read more…

Posted: August 15th, 2018 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Discipline, Question of the week, Stress

Question of the week: What are the causes of kids being unruly during and after a divorce?

Many things are happening in children’s lives when their parents separate or divorce. Children don’t understand adult problems, and even though a lot of their friends have divorced parents, many children simply don’t know what the word “divorce” means. All they know is their parents were together, and now one parent is packing up to leave. In Divorced Kids by Laurene Johnson Read more…

Posted: January 10th, 2018 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Co-parenting, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Emotions, Modern families, Preschool, Question of the week, Single Parents, Step and blended families

How to help children maintain dignity

This past weekend found me taking care of a couple kids whose single mom had to work. I really don’t mind these cute little girls spending the day with me at my house. I’ve kind of adopted these elementary age girls as my grandchildren. These girls have had a pretty rough time in their short lives. They were away from their mom for Read more…

Posted: January 25th, 2017 ˑ 3 Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Brain Research, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Single Parents, Stress, Whirlwind Kids

Why should we have compassion for troubled and disruptive kids?

It is really very simple – a child does to others what has been done to them. Or they are hurting little children and their behavior is their voice screaming for help. Another reason is they need someone to love them and give them the caring and loving attention little children need. Children aren’t born mean. There may be some predispositions such as Read more…

Posted: January 7th, 2016 ˑ 1 Comment
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Emotions, Grandparents, Stress, Whirlwind Kids