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Ask me no questions and I’ll tell you no lies

Children of divorce have a lot of questions to ask but many times they don’t know whom to ask. If or when they do get up the courage to ask their questions, many are told lies. Or maybe they aren’t really lies but “half-truths.” Children need the truth– not lies or made up stories. I have always advocated that children be told the Read more…

Posted: January 17th, 2019 ˑ 2 Comments
Filled under: Co-parenting, Divorce Issues, Family Ministers, Grandparents, KidMin, Single Parents, Step and blended families

After divorce: when to tell the kids that mom or dad is dating

Recently, I was asked if I had any research addressing how soon after separation kids should be exposed to the other parent’s new partner. This is a tough question, but if you are in children’s ministry, you might have to deal with it more often than you like. There are so many variables with this question. There are also a lot of articles Read more…

Posted: February 12th, 2018 ˑ 6 Comments
Filled under: Divorce Issues, Research, Single Parents, Step and blended families

Does divorce create behavior problems in children?

The answer to this question might depend on the person you ask. If you ask a parent who is barely surviving, that answer is going to be “no” simply because they can’t see the behavior problems standing in front of them. These parents are in a fog because it is just the best they can do at the moment. When the third Read more…

Posted: January 5th, 2017 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Discipline, Divorce Issues, School Issues, Whirlwind Kids

Discipleship ideas for divorcing and single parents

Discipleship for Single and Divorcing Parents

When I’m at children’s ministers conferences I hear many refer to Deuteronomy 6:6–8. They usually explain the importance of parents being responsible to disciple their children based on this Scripture. I think most of us assume parents have the greatest influence on their children. While I agree with that idea, I wonder if we aren’t assuming all children live in a loving, Read more…

Posted: May 19th, 2016 ˑ 2 Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Discipline, Divorce Issues, Single Parents