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Single Parents: Summer months can be very complicated for your children

Summer months can become very sticky, messy, and complicated for mothers, fathers, and children in divorced families and single-parent homes. Divorce decrees can mandate that when school is out, and the children visit the other parent for extended periods of time. They may stay several weeks or even all summer with the other parent. In places with year-round school, the children might stay Read more…

Posted: June 2nd, 2021 ˑ 2 Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Co-parenting, Divorce Issues, Holidays, Single Parents, Summer

Question of the week: Can children of divorce multitask effectively?

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Multitasking is the source of many behavior problems that you see in children of divorce. What do I mean by that? Well, hold on as I explain. Recently, while reviewing research on the brain, I read that multitasking is a myth—your brain can only focus on one thing at a time. As I thought about this idea, a lightbulb went off in my Read more…

Posted: May 10th, 2017 ˑ No Comments
Filled under: Discipline, Divorce Issues, Modern families, Question of the week, Single Parents

5 Ways to assist a child with a broken and hurting heart

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The January/February 2017 cover of Children’s Ministry Magazine says, “How changed hearts, change hearts.” I love this phrase. It is what I’ve touted for years, except I have left off the word “how” and simply said, “Changed hearts, change hearts.” In the article “How to transform the heart of your ministry from perfect programs to rooted relationships,” author Dan Lovaglia talks Read more…

Posted: April 13th, 2017 ˑ 2 Comments
Filled under: Brain Research, Disasters, Divorce Issues, Holidays, Modern families, Trauma

Kids are blunt when they talk about why parents shouldn’t get divorced

I have worked with children of divorce for over forty years. I’ve heard some conversations that would curl your hair. I’ve also heard stories of tenderness and tales of heartbreak. Several times I have asked children of divorce, “If you had a chance to tell your parents, and other adults something about divorce, what would you say?” Some kids are blunt and say, “Don’t Read more…

Posted: August 26th, 2015 ˑ 7 Comments
Filled under: Accept the Challenge, Co-parenting, Divorce Issues, Emotions, Single Parents